Thursday, October 28, 2010

PROBLEMS OF ADOLESCENTS IN INCLUSIVE SECONDARY SCHOOLS: A COMPARATIVE ANALYSIS

PROBLEMS OF ADOLESCENTS IN INCLUSIVE SECONDARY SCHOOLS: A COMPARATIVE ANALYSIS

This study examined the problems of students with and without disabilities in inclusive secondary schools in Lagos state. The instrument used to collect data was the Student Problem Inventory (SPI), which measured the respondents' problems from their known judgements. Results revealed that majority of the respondents with disabilities had problems on all the subscales of SPI while the non-disabled respondents had few problems. However, relative to the scores of the respondents without disabilities on the other problem areas they scored higher on Family, Financial, and Academic subscale, of SPI. This was explained as the probable effect of poverty. Nonetheless a statistically significant difference was found between the problem of respondents' with disabilities and those without disabilities. This finding was attributed to the effect of disability, poverty and inappropriate practice of inclusive education. Based on the findings, recommendations were made.

Publication: Ife Psychologia
Author: Sulaiman, A A
Date published: September 1, 2010

Introduction

In a previous study, this writer examined the problems of students with disabilities in inclusive secondary schools in Lagos State. It was found that majority of the respondents have different problems, which strongly affect their academic performance as well as their well-being. This finding was attributed to the presence of disability, poverty, the physical environment of the school as well as the services that were provided. However, considering the peculiar situation of a child in contemporary Nigerian society coupled with the students being adolescents, one is tempted to compare the problems of students with disabilities and those without disabilities to ascertain if there are significant differences, more so, since inclusive education is meant to cater for the differences between students with disabilities and those without disabilities.

Inclusive education in this paper is the education of all students classified as disabled together with non-disabled in general classrooms with appropriate professional services, what Bowe (2005) termed full inclusion. The goal of inclusive education is to combat discriminatory attitudes, create welcoming communities, build an inclusive society and achieve equal educational opportunities for all. The efficacy of inclusive education in changing non-disabled attitudes towards the disabled has been asserted by several studies. It has been asserted that inclusive education offers both academic and social advantages (Bursuck 8c Friend, 2002; Stenger, 2004). Stenger explains that children need to have a sense of belonging to learn and grow, if the belonging need is not fully met, a student will have difficulty moving into the self-esteem level, where achievement and mastery (learning) take place. Inclusion helps students with disabilities gain a sense of belonging when they are truly part of the school, equally with non-disabled children. Hence it is expected that inclusive schooling would have facilitated sense of belonging in the disabled and effectively inculcated solidarity between disabled and non-disabled adolescents, thus creating basis for comparison.

In addition, a child in contemporary Nigeria is faced with the challenges of poverty and its attendant problems. The United Nations Human Poverty Index (HPI) which focuses on the proportion of people below a threshold level within the various dimensions of human development comprising living a long and healthy life, having access to education, and a decent standard of living gave Nigeria a value of 37.3%. This value places Nigeria on a rank of 80 out of 108 developing countries. Therefore, the former Governor of Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN), Prof. Chukwuma Soludo declares 54% of Nigerians, which is about 76 million of Nigeria's 140 million people, as living below poverty level (Egwa, 2008). Of the 140 million, Lagos State has an estimate of 1 5million people out of the thirty six States in Nigeria.

Lagos State as the commercial and industrial hub of Nigeria continues to witness influx of people from within Nigeria and neighbouring countries for commercial and other activities such that the city today can best be described as overpopulated or overflowing with its estimate of 15million people. Due to over-population, infrastructural facilities and services including housing, roads, transportation, health care delivery services, schools and other social welfare services are stretched beyond their limits and are therefore inadequate. Hence, Lagosians are vulnerable to symptoms of poverty such as hunger, disease and oppression. It has been asserted that poverty destroys aspirations, hope, and happiness. Poverty affects tolerance of others, self-esteem and sense of personal competence (Schiller, 2000; Harrison 2000). Poverty also affects ones disposition to participate in community affairs, interpersonal trust and selfsatisfaction (Fairbanks, 2000). Poor people are much more likely to suffer accidents, to live in unhealthy conditions, to have no access to clean water, to eat a bad diet, and to suffer from under nourishment. When they do get sick, poor people are much less likely to be able to afford the cost of treatment. Poverty fosters financial dependency on the state and the extended family (Albert, McBride and Seddon, 2002).

Records have shown that poverty in Nigeria has pushed many into different vices such as human trafficking, prostitution, street trading, begging, child labour, corruption, disruption of family relations and social life (Anyagafu and Iwenjora, 2006). A large number of Nigerian kids are either permanently (street kids) or partially (street trading) on the street. Some of the kids interviewed by Anyagafu and Iwenjora, state thus:

"I have lived under the bridges for a long time, I have been a bus conductor and sometimes, my friends and I stay at the bus -stops to carry loads. There are some lorries that bring in big loads from the North to Lagos. We do the off-loading and at the close of the day, they pay us and I go to where I usually sleep. Sometimes, we sleep inside the vehicles which are no longer in good condition and use them as our house"

"My family is extremely poor. I pay my school fees from the returns I get from what I do. My family members do not even know what I do. I am the one training myself. I am in SSS III, (grade nine) our School Certificate Examination is coming soon and I need more money to register for the exam. I would work extra hard to make the amount".

Besides the pangs of poverty is the adolescence factor. Adolescence is a transitional stage of physical and mental human development that occurs between childhood and adulthood (Santrock, 2003). This transition involves biological (pubertal), cognitive, social, and psychological changes which according to early psychologists such as Hall (1974) is of storm-and-stress. According to Hall, adolescence is a time of rebellion, crises, pathology and deviance. The conflicts and distress of the adolescent is attributed to biological changes. Contemporary psychologists such as Santrock (2003) however, describes adolescence as a time of evaluation, decision making, commitment and a time of carving out a place in the world. Santrock is of the opinion that the environment plays a major role in the development of the adolescent. When the adolescent is provided smooth, gradual transition, little storm and stress is associated with the period. Hetherington 8c Kelly, (2002) asserts that adolescents who feel warmth and support from their parents and the environment are less likely to engage in risky behaviours. Also, parents who convey clear expectations regarding their adolescents' behaviour and who demonstrate consistent limit setting and monitoring are less likely to have adolescents who engage in risky behaviours.

Unfortunately, today's adolescents are confronted with unstable environment of high rate of divorce, access to firearms, poverty and its attendant effects, strange fragments of violence, drug abuse and orgiastic sex from the media. Consequently, several behavioural problems such as school problems, future problems, drugs and alcohol abuse, mental health problems, teenage pregnancy and abortion, juvenile delinquency, depression and suicide manifest in today's adolescents. The use of drugs by adolescence has been found to be a way of coping with stress and growing up in conflict-ridden families. Suicide, teenage pregnancy and juvenile delinquency are associated with a long standing history of family instability and unhappiness (Wikipedia, 2008). If as a result of the environment, adolescents are generally vulnerable, then one except no significant difference between disabled and non-disabled adolescents. More so, since the ultimate aim of inclusive education is to enable persons with disabilities live an independent life.

The Problem

Adolescence is associated with various problems. However, contemporary psychologists such as Santrock (2003) assert that favourable environment is a major factor for adolescents to develop without problems. Unfortunately, a child in contemporary Nigeria society as depicted above is in an unfavourable environment, which suggests the development of adolescents with several problems. In a previous study by this writer, it was found that adolescents with disabilities had several problems despite being in an inclusive school, which should have facilitated a sense of belonging. The implication is that other factors such as poverty and its attendant effects and being adolescents are at play, hence the assumption that there is no significant difference in the problems of adolescents either with or without disabilities.

The Purpose

The purpose of this study is to examine the problems of adolescents with and without disabilities in inclusive secondary schools in Lagos State and as well identify if there are differences.

Research Question and Hypothesis

1 . What are the problems of adolescents in inclusive secondary schools in Lagos State?

2. There would be no statistically significant difference in the problems of disabled and non- disabled adolescents in inclusive secondary schools in Lagos State.

Methods

Participant and Setting

The population for the study consist of all students from seven identified inclusive secondary schools in Lagos State. The choice of this population is important because, they are adolescents and inclusive secondary schools educate students with and without disabilities together in the same classroom. The sample selected for the study consists of 188 adolescents, 92 girls and 96 boys whose age range from 11-22years. The ideal secondary school age in Nigeria is 11-18years, however, that some of the participants are between the ages of 19 and 22 years may be an indication that they started school late due to the effect of disability. All the 94 disabled students in the schools and 94 non-disabled students were randomly selected for the study.

Instrument

Student Problem Inventory (SPI)

The instrument used for the study is the Student Problem Inventory (SPI), which is a self-report inventory through which individuals' describe their personal problems according to their perception. The inventory was designed in form of a checklist, classified into eleven sections measuring different problem areas such as physical appearance and health, interpersonal relationship problems, problems of self-acceptance, problems that relate to the individual's well-being, future plan and security, academic problems and problems on overall school adjustment. A test -retest reliability coefficient of 0.64 was established on the inventory. Respondents were asked to place a tick on the space provided in front of each item on the inventory, as it relates to them. A tick placed on the blank space provided in front of each statement means "Yes", the respondent is experiencing the problem. If the space is left blank it means "No", the respondent is not experiencing the problem. Numbers of ticks made by each subject in each section were counted and recorded as raw scores for each subject.

* A total raw score above 60 indicates high or many problems

* 31-59 indicate average or medium problems

* 10-30 indicate low or few problems.

The fewer the numbers of ticks the lesser the individual's problem and the more the numbers of ticks the more the individual's problem.

Method of data Analysis

Data was analysed with the use of SPSS for windows version 15.0computer package. Descriptive statistics in form of frequency counts and percentage was used along with inferential statistics such as the t-Test. All analyses were held significant at 0.05.

Results

Results presented in Table 1 show that students with disabilities have many problems with majority scoring high 43.6% - 68.1% on the high problem level, while students without disability scored high 40.4% - 86.2% on the low problems level. However, on Financial and Family Problems, the gap in the scores of the disabled and nondisabled students is close and far different from their scores on other problem areas. The non-disabled students scored between 74 and 81 on other problem areas but scored 38 and 42 respectively on Financial and Family problem areas.

Results presented in Table 2 show a statistically significant difference between the problems of disabled and non- disabled students on all levels of problems. With low problems level t, 10.411 = p, 0.000 < 464 =" p," 312 =" p,">

Discussion

Contrary to the expectation that there would be no significant difference in the problems of adolescents with and without disabilities, results show a statistically significant difference in the problems of adolescents with disabilities and those without disabilities. Results also revealed that adolescents with disabilities in this study have many problems in all areas of problems measured, while non-disabled respondents scored lower on all areas of problems. However, non-disabled adolescents scored relatively higher on financial, family and academic problems areas. The percentage scores of the non-disabled on other areas is not more than approximately 10% however on financial, family and academic problems areas, the percentage scores increased significantly to 29.8%, 31.7% and 20.2% respectively. The non-disabled scoring relatively higher on the financial, family and academic problem areas, is probably a pointer to the effect of poverty. According to Anyagafu and Iwenjora, (2006) a large number of Nigerian kids are either permanently or partially on the street definitely financial, family and academic performance are at risk. Harrison (2000) earlier asserts that poverty destroys aspirations, hope, and happiness. Poverty affects tolerance of others, self-esteem and sense of personal competence Fairbanks (2000) asserts that poverty affects ones disposition to participate in community affairs, interpersonal trust and self-satisfaction.

On the other hand, the significant difference in problems of both groups and scoring high marks on all problems area for persons with disabilities is a pointer to the effect of disability, poverty and inappropriate practices of inclusive education. As rightly noted by Albert, McBride and Seddon (2002) poverty is a main cause of impairment, and vice-versa. Poor people are much more likely to suffer accidents, to live in unhealthy conditions, to have no access to clean water, to eat a bad diet, and to suffer from under nourishment. As well, the disabling condition is an important cause of poverty and social exclusion, which can foster financial dependency on the state and the extended family. Though, Kling, Hyde, Showers, and Bruswell, (1999) assert that the life experiences of adolescents with disabilities and those of non-disabled may be different by virtue of the presence of disability, however, the essence of inclusive education is to bridge the gap and create conducive environment. Unfortunately, as found elsewhere (Sulaiman, 2009) there exist a wide gap between the practice of inclusion and the policy of inclusion in terms of the physical environment of the schools as well as the services provided. There was nothing to physically reflect the presence of a disabled student in the architectural design and physical features of the inclusive schools. Hence, confirming Santrock's (2003) assertion that favourable environment is a major factor for adolescents to develop without problems. Inclusive education as depicted here, probably explains why inclusion has not been able to bridge the gap between adolescents with disabilities and those without disabilities.

Recommendations

The following recommendations had constantly been echoed and reechoed in several journal articles (Sulaiman, 2004; 2006a; 2006b 8c 2009) and is repeated here with the hope that it could get to the tables or hands of the government, educational administrators, policy makers/ planners and all concerned to ensure the following:

* Proper adjustment of the school environment to suit the physical and psychological needs of students with disabilities.

* Provision of adequate technological equipment and support services needed to facilitate effective teaching, learning and overall growth of students with disabilities.

* Continuous and constant evaluation of inclusive education in schools.

* Mandatory laws and policies to enhance commitment and reduce neglect of the exceptional students.

* Ensure the presence of counsellors in all schools. The counsellor has important role to play in ensuring proper adjustment of the disabled and non-disabled alike. Just as the disabled students need orientation about the school environment so also do the non-disabled students, as well as the teachers and support staffs need information and understanding of disabled students to relate with them appropriately.

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Friday, July 30, 2010

Love Quotes


To be your friend was all I ever wanted; to be your lover was all I ever dreamed.”
~ I love him but can’t have him

“Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit.”
“Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself. To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.”
~Kahlil Gibran on love

“A boy is a magical creature, you can lock him out of your workshop, but you can’t lock him out of your heart. You can get him out of your study, but you can’t get him out of your mind.”
~Cute Boyfriend

“I am a hopeless romantic and I love to spoil my girlfriends.”
~Cute Girlfriend

“You are what I never knew I always wanted”
From the Movie, Fools Rush In

“Sometimes I wish I were a little kid again, skinned knees are easier to fix than broken hearts.”
~There are many Broken Heart Quotes here.

Don’t say you love me unless you really mean it, because I might do something crazy like believe it.
~Crush

The worst thing is holding on to someone who doesn’t want to be held on to.
~Lost Love

“I love her and that’s the beginning of everything.”
~Teen love

“Like music on the waters is your sweet voice to me.”
~Valentine’s Day

If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden.
~I Miss you by Claudia Ghandi

“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it is better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”
~We have a collection of some nice Break Up Quotes and sayings.

“Love sought is good, but given unsought, is better.”
~ Shakespeare on Love

It is impossible to love and be wise.
~Funny one by Francis Bacon

“Make me immortal with a kiss.”
~Cute one by Christopher Marlowe

“When I see you smile and know that it is not for me, that is when I will miss you the most.”
~Sad

“A kiss without a hug is like a flower without the fragrance.”
~Hug Quotes on love and friendship.

And perhaps you would like these words on cheating.

“Pains of love be sweeter far
Than any other pleasures are.”
~ On Heartache John Dryden

Lovely Quote

Today I bent the truth to be kind, and I have no regret, for I am far surer of what is kind than I am of what is true. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com

If you haven't any charity in your heart, you have the worst kind of heart trouble. ~Bob Hope

Never look down on anybody unless you're helping him up. ~Jesse Jackson

A good character is the best tombstone. Those who loved you and were helped by you will remember you when forget-me-nots have withered. Carve your name on hearts, not on marble. ~Charles H. Spurgeon

It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice. ~Author Unknown


Today, give a stranger one of your smiles. It might be the only sunshine he sees all day. ~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.


Treat everyone with politeness, even those who are rude to you - not because they are nice, but because you are. ~Author Unknown


What this world needs is a new kind of army - the army of the kind. ~Cleveland Amory

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. ~Dalai Lama

During my second year of nursing school our professor gave us a quiz. I breezed through the questions until I read the last one: "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?" Surely this was a joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Before the class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our grade. "Absolutely," the professor said. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say hello." I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy. ~Joann C. Jones


I always prefer to believe the best of everybody, it saves so much trouble. ~Rudyard Kipling


Don't be yourself - be someone a little nicer. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966


There is no greater loan than a sympathetic ear. ~Frank Tyger


Never miss an opportunity to make others happy, even if you have to leave them alone in order to do it. ~Author Unknown

A fellow who does things that count, doesn't usually stop to count them. ~Variation of a saying by Albert Einstein

Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. ~Mark Twain

Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness. ~Seneca

A kind word is like a Spring day. ~Russian Proverb

Kindness is in our power, even when fondness is not. ~Samuel Johnson

There is one word which may serve as a rule of practice for all one's life - reciprocity. ~Confucius


Don't wait for people to be friendly, show them how. ~Author Unknown


The most important trip you may take in life is meeting people halfway. ~Henry Boye


When I was young, I admired clever people. Now that I am old, I admire kind people. ~Abraham Joshua Heschel

If we should deal out justice only, in this world, who would escape? No, it is better to be generous, and in the end more profitable, for it gains gratitude for us, and love. ~Mark Twain

Life is mostly froth and bubble,
Two things stand like stone,
Kindness in another's trouble,
Courage in your own.
~Adam Lindsay Gordon


How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in your life you will have been all of these. ~George Washington Carver


You can't live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you. ~John Wooden


Kindness, like a boomerang, always returns. ~Author Unknown


If those who owe us nothing gave us nothing, how poor we would be. ~Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943, translated from Spanish by W.S. Merwin


The best portion of a good man's life - his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love. ~William Wordsworth

You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson


Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. ~Plato
By swallowing evil words unsaid, no one has ever harmed his stomach. ~Winston Churchill

Real generosity is doing something nice for someone who will never find out. ~Frank A. Clark

The kindest word in all the world is the unkind word, unsaid. ~Author Unknown

The everyday kindness of the back roads more than makes up for the acts of greed in the headlines. ~Charles Kuralt, On the Road With Charles Kuralt


Love thy neighbor, and if it requires that you bend your understanding of the truth, the Truth will understand. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com


We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak. ~Epictetus

One can pay back the loan of gold, but one dies forever in debt to those who are kind. ~Malayan Proverb

Being considerate of others will take your children further in life than any college degree. ~Marian Wright Edelman

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. ~Leo Buscaglia

A bit of fragrance always clings to the hand that gives roses. ~Chinese Proverb


As the bus slowed down at the crowded bus stop, the Pakistani bus conductor leaned from the platform and called out, "Six only!" The bus stopped. He counted on six passengers, rang the bell, and then, as the bus moved off, called to those left behind: "So sorry, plenty of room in my heart - but the bus is full." He left behind a row of smiling faces. It's not what you do, it's the way that you do it. ~The Friendship Book of Francis Gay, 1977


There is no effect more disproportionate to its cause than the happiness bestowed by a small compliment. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com


We always prefer war on our own terms to peace on someone else's. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966

Have you had a kindness shown?
Pass it on;
'Twas not given for thee alone,
Pass it on;
Let it travel down the years,
Let it wipe another's tears,
'Til in Heaven the deed appears -
Pass it on.
~Henry Burton, Pass It On


Make it a practice to judge persons and things in the most favorable light at all times and under all circumstances. ~Saint Vincent de Paul


Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something and has lost something. ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.


Be thoughtful of others and you will not be shy, for they are incompatible addictions. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com

The best way to knock the chip off your neighbor's shoulder is to pat him on the back. ~Author Unknown

Open your heart - open it wide; someone is standing outside. ~Quoted in Believe: A Christmas Treasury by Mary Engelbreit

Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again. ~Og Mandino

If every man's internal care
Were written on his brow,
How many would our pity share
Who raise our envy now?
~Peitro Metastasio


Kindness is the greatest wisdom. ~Author Unknown


A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person. ~Dave Barry, "Things That It Took Me 50 Years to Learn"


If thou are a master, be sometimes blind; if a servant, sometimes deaf. ~Thomas Fuller

Do good by stealth, and blush to find it fame. ~Alexander Pope, Epilogue to the Satires, 1738

Life is short but there is always time for courtesy. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson, Social Aims

The best practical advice I can give to the present generation is to practice the virtue which the Christians call love. ~Bertrand Russell

If we cannot be clever, we can always be kind. ~Alfred Fripp

To give and then not feel that one has given is the very best of all ways of giving. ~Max Beerbohm


One man cannot hold another man down in the ditch without remaining down in the ditch with him. ~Booker T. Washington


The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. ~John E. Southard

Getting money is not all a man's business: to cultivate kindness is a valuable part of the business of life. ~Samuel Johnson

The first and highest law must be the love of man to man. Homo homini Deus est - this is the supreme practical maxim, this is the turning point of the world's History. ~Ludwig Feuerbach, The Essence of Christianity

Love someone who doesn't deserve it. ~Author Unknown


The more sympathy you give, the less you need. ~Malcolm S. Forbes
It is not for him to pride himself who loveth his own country, but rather for him who loveth the whole world. The earth is but one country and mankind its citizens. ~Baha'u'llah

There are no traffic jams when you go the extra mile. ~Attributed to both Zig Ziglar and Dr. Kenneth McFarland

The true meaning of life is to plant trees, under whose shade you do not expect to sit. ~Nelson Henderson

If, after I depart this vale, you ever remember me and have thought to please my ghost, forgive some sinner and wink your eye at some homely girl. ~H.L. Mencken


To error on the side of kindness is seldom an error. ~Liz Armbruster, on www.robertbrault.com

Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves. ~James Matthew Barrie

In about the same degree as you are helpful, you will be happy. ~Karl Reiland

How far that little candle throws his beams!
So shines a good deed in a naughty world.
~William Shakespeare, Merchant of Venice, much later adapted to "So shines a good deed in a weary world" by David Seltzer for the 1971 film Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory (Thanks Aidan!)


I expect to pass through life but once. If therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again. ~William Penn

The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own. ~Benjamin Disraeli

How beautiful a day can be
When kindness touches it!
~George Elliston

Sometimes someone says something really small, and it just fits right into this empty place in your heart. ~From the television show My So-Called Life

Something that has always puzzled me all my life is why, when I am in special need of help, the good deed is usually done by somebody on whom I have no claim. ~William Feather

Real charity doesn't care if it's tax-deductible or not. ~Dan Bennett

When your suffering is a little greater than my suffering I feel that I am a little cruel. ~Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943, translated from Spanish by W.S. Merwin

I soothe my conscience now with the thought that it is better for hard words to be on paper than that Mummy should carry them in her heart. ~Anne Frank, The Diary of a Young Girl

Always be a little kinder than necessary. ~James M. Barrie

If you step on people in this life, you're going to come back as a cockroach. ~Willie Davis


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Abimbola.